Things I forget then I remember then look back and say that I could have dodge that. -Sometimes, when you're in the situations, the most obvious answers don't seem like the options. -You don't have to listen and follow other people's expectations and stereotypes. You don't have to believe them. You can listen inside you and do what you want to do (that's moral, of course). People do not know you and only you knows you better. They do not know what you've been practicing and willing to do. You can't control people's tendency to have misconceptions. -Sometimes, you don't have to be mad. -What other people think of you is none of your business (unless you've kindof offended them and you sorta have an inflated view of yourself). -anticipation is sometimes scarier than the real deal. -cure yourself from naiveness -don't pity people. sometimes, they don't know that they are pitiable. -don't beat yourself up because you're not "at the same level with the others" because they had the luxury of having circumstances that got them to where they are that you probably didn't have. -don't give in to anger and its instincts. -rarely that people get it right the first time. if they did, pretty likely that they have practiced it one way or another. -practice patience, humility, and kindness. -don't dwell in the past or the future, you're in the present, "where all the gifts are." - Josh Radnor -Remember that other people are probably really insecure about something you're already over with -Sometimes, it's complicated because you think it's complicated. -practice making other people feel special. -you can blame it on other things, but take the responsibilities. -it's actually harder to do good things than bad, so dare yourself everyday. -everybody matters, they are their own unique story. -when it seems easier to give up, that's when you shouldn't -you relate to events and people through your own experiences, so if you never experienced it, it's harder to understand. -we see people with our own lenses. so if the lenses are dirty (usually from our past), then we'd see dirt on people. -try harder to find the beauty in every one. Reasons to forgive: -Sometimes, when people hurt you, they don't know that they have. -One less thing to worry about. -Sometimes, people do want you to get mad, so when you do, you just made them happy. -- my friend told me never belittle myself for being self-conscious or insecure because that just means that i'm bettering myself. which is really right. it keeps my ego down and just focus on enhancing my skills and stuff like that | 